No way. I am sorry, but when I was a child, I was expected to be on my best behavior. Clean up shit when I was done with it. Don't trash the bedroom. Don't color on the walls. Ask nicely for something to eat or drink. When did we stop doing this? Teaching our children courtesy and decorum? Having to clean up and be polite does't mean "no fun at all."
Of course, on occasion, I accept a playdate offer, but always make sure that the playing grounds are neutral. If it is held at my house, I politely inform that mother/father of our house rules...and if that isn't something the child can abide by, then we shouldn't have it in my home.
Either way, I like to make suggestions or offer fun activities that involve the whole group (of course, the parents get some non-kid time). Read below to find out great ways to have playdates without impeding upon anybody's preferences/rule/neuroticisms.